I’ve found that it’s some help to think of one’s moods and feelings about the world as being similar to weather.
Here are some obvious things about weather:
- It’s real.
- You can’t change it by wishing it away.
- If it’s dark and rainy, it really is dark and rainy and you can’t alter it.
- It may be dark and rainy for two weeks in a row.
- It will be sunny one day.
- It isn’t under one’s control as to when the sun comes out, but come out it will.
- One day.
It really is the same with one’s moods, I think. The wrong approach is to believe that they are illusions. They are real. Depression, anxiety, listlessness – these are as real as the weather – AND EQUALLY NOT UNDER ONE’S CONTROL. Not one’s fault.
They will pass: they really will.
In the same way that one has to accept the weather, so one has to accept how one feels about life sometimes. “Today’s a crap day.” is a perfectly realistic approach. It’s all about finding a kind of mental umbrella. “Hey-ho, it’s raining inside: it isn’t my fault and there’s nothing I can do about it, but sit it out. But the sun may well come out tomorrow and when it does, I shall take full advantage.”
- Stephen Fry